Erotic confidence…owning your body
Erotic confidence isn’t about performing, seducing, or meeting someone else’s idea of desirability. It’s quieter—and far more powerful—than that. It’s the internal sense of being at home in your body. It’s knowing what you like, what you don’t, and feeling entitled to your own physical experience without apology.
For many people, especially women, erotic confidence has been outsourced. We’re taught—explicitly and subtly—that our bodies are objects to be evaluated rather than places to live. Owning your body is the act of taking that power back.
What Erotic Confidence Is (and Isn’t)
Erotic confidence is not:
Constant sexual desire
Being “good in bed”
Feeling sexy all the time
Looking a certain way
Being fearless or uninhibited
Erotic confidence is:
Feeling entitled to your sensations
Trusting your body’s signals
Being able to say yes, no, or maybe without guilt
Allowing pleasure without earning it
Staying present in your body rather than monitoring it
At its core, erotic confidence is less about sex and more about self-relationship.
Owning Your Body Starts with Permission
Erotic confidence begins with permission:
Permission to feel
Permission to want
Permission to change
Permission to not know
Owning your body doesn’t require confidence first. Confidence grows as a result of embodied permission.
This might look like:
Noticing sensations without judging them
Letting desire be subtle instead of urgent
Allowing pleasure to be small, slow, or inconsistent
Accepting that your relationship with your body will evolve
There is nothing broken about fluctuating desire, changing needs, or ambivalence toward sex. Erotic confidence isn’t rigid—it’s responsive.
Owning Your Body Is an Ongoing Practice
Erotic confidence isn’t a destination—it’s a relationship. One that deepens with curiosity, honesty, and compassion.
Owning your body means you get to decide what intimacy, pleasure, and connection mean for you—now, and as you change.
What does erotic confidence mean to you?