Erotic confidence…owning your body

Erotic confidence isn’t about performing, seducing, or meeting someone else’s idea of desirability. It’s quieter—and far more powerful—than that. It’s the internal sense of being at home in your body. It’s knowing what you like, what you don’t, and feeling entitled to your own physical experience without apology.

For many people, especially women, erotic confidence has been outsourced. We’re taught—explicitly and subtly—that our bodies are objects to be evaluated rather than places to live. Owning your body is the act of taking that power back.

What Erotic Confidence Is (and Isn’t)

Erotic confidence is not:

  • Constant sexual desire

  • Being “good in bed”

  • Feeling sexy all the time

  • Looking a certain way

  • Being fearless or uninhibited

Erotic confidence is:

  • Feeling entitled to your sensations

  • Trusting your body’s signals

  • Being able to say yes, no, or maybe without guilt

  • Allowing pleasure without earning it

  • Staying present in your body rather than monitoring it

At its core, erotic confidence is less about sex and more about self-relationship.

Owning Your Body Starts with Permission

Erotic confidence begins with permission:

  • Permission to feel

  • Permission to want

  • Permission to change

  • Permission to not know

Owning your body doesn’t require confidence first. Confidence grows as a result of embodied permission.

This might look like:

  • Noticing sensations without judging them

  • Letting desire be subtle instead of urgent

  • Allowing pleasure to be small, slow, or inconsistent

  • Accepting that your relationship with your body will evolve

There is nothing broken about fluctuating desire, changing needs, or ambivalence toward sex. Erotic confidence isn’t rigid—it’s responsive.

Owning Your Body Is an Ongoing Practice

Erotic confidence isn’t a destination—it’s a relationship. One that deepens with curiosity, honesty, and compassion.

Owning your body means you get to decide what intimacy, pleasure, and connection mean for you—now, and as you change.

What does erotic confidence mean to you?

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